17 Ways to Build an Emotional Connection with a Man

By David Small •  Updated: 07/14/19 •  11 min read

Ever wondered how to build an emotional connection with a man? Some would say it is impossible. If you understand how men view relationships, it will be very easy for you to connect emotionally. For once, men find it very difficult to express themselves emotionally.

As a woman, you may not understand when your man holds back and does not show love the way you expect him to. When you have a deeper emotional connection with him, it will be much easier for you.

17 Ways to Build an Emotional Connection with a Man

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In an effort to find out what emotional connection is, we did some research. We found out that emotional connection is a package of subjective feelings strengthen the bond between two people. “Emotional” refers to a strong feeling like love, joy, sorrow, anger, and other emotions common to humans.

A “connection” is a tie, link or bond to someone or something. Hence, emotional connection is a tie, link or bond to someone with whom you have mutual emotions.

Here’s how to build an emotional connection with a man:

  1. Avoid Pressurizing Him to Open Up

Men are not very easy when it comes to opening up. Before he can tell you his past exploits and deepest fears, the man must be in a state of complete relaxation. Don’t pester him to open up. If you do, you will only come off as a nagging woman.

The best you can do is to allow him to open up when and how he likes it. Men like to be sure of a strong bond before opening up. Any premature pressure will only push him away.

  1. Have More Sex

If there is something that men like the most, it is sex. Sex has a way of boosting a man’s ego and making him feel good. When you have more sex, your man is likely to have a more powerful and sensual view of you. He gets connected to you not just physically, but also emotionally.

To him, the more the sex you have, the more he feels you love him. While it is impossible to have sex all the time, don’t be quick in denying it to him. Occasionally, be the one initiating it. Men like it when they are desired. It excites him when you initiate sex. He feels you want him just like he wants you.

  1. Open Up To Him

Before a man gets to pour his heart out, he needs to be sure you are free with him. Instead of pushing him into a corner, why don’t you create an environment in which he can talk freely? You need to show him the importance of building an emotional connection between the two of you.

Timing is of the essence. Pick a time of day when you think he can be vulnerable. Instead of pushing him to talk, tell him about your deepest secrets. Ask for his opinion. Help him realize it is okay if he pours his heart out.  He may not tell you everything about himself. However, it will only be a matter of time before he opens up.

  1. Get Physically Close

Physical closeness is very key to building a strong relationship. In addition to sex, it is the best way to be intimate. So take every opportunity you have to hug, kiss, cuddle, hold hands or sit on his legs.

When you are physically close to your man, you will be in a better position to build an emotional connection between the two of you. It makes him feel desired. The closer you get, the more likely he is to tell you things you did not expect.

At the core, the physical connection shouldn’t be about sex. Rather, connect with him just for the sake of it. You will be surprised how quickly be starts talking about his life, dreams, and aspirations.

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  1. Be There For Him

Every man has struggled. As such, your man needs every support he can marshal to succeed. So, why don’t you deliberately work towards supporting him? Show him how much you care about his success.

Things will get tough. That’s the time when he needs you by his side. When a man knows you are with him no matter what, he is going to be emotionally connected to you. With time, he will open up his heart and share with you his deepest concerns. The emotional connection between the two of you will become stronger.

17 Ways to Build an Emotional Connection with a Man

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  1. Show Him Some Respect

The best way to show a man that you love him is by giving him some respect. If anything, being respected is the greatest need of a man. It shows him how much you hold him in high regard. If he needs space, give it to him.

Listen to what he says and accept and understand the way he looks at life. Compromise a lot and offer help before he asks for it. Be his biggest cheerleader in everything he does.

If you do that, your man will reciprocate by growing emotionally closer to you.He will appreciate you the more and grow closer to you.

  1. Don’t Overcrowd His Space

For many women, this may seem counterproductive. “Just how do you build an emotional connection with a man by giving him space?” you might ask.

However, always being together with your man may work against you. It is likely to put him off. That’s why you should give him space. When he comes back to you, he will be in the best mood.

Don’t be surprised if he opens up and begins to tell you what’s going on in his life. If anything, he will be more open to your overtures. Soon, your emotional connection shall be the strongest ever.

  1. Maintain a Sense of Mystery

What kind of a woman are you? If you are prone to opening up too soon, take a back seat and wait. Men like women who have some kind of mystery around them. That’s an attribute you can take advantage of if you want a man to come all-out after you.

If you overshare, you will end up telling the man too much to your own detriment. As soon as he feels he knows everything there is to know, you will lose him. So wait until he is completely into you before telling your story.

  1. Be Curious About His Life

One of the best ways to build an emotional connection with a man is to be curious about his life. Inquire about his thoughts, goals, and ambitions. What does he think about career and marriage?

Ask about his childhood and past life. It doesn’t have to be anything serious. Inquire the smallest details of his life to make him know how important he is to you. With time, you will be able to connect with him on a deeper level.

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  1. Learn His Hobbies

What are your man’s passions? Make sure you discover his hobbies and develop an interest in them. You don’t have to obsess about everything he does. Pick out a few of his hobbies and offer to participate in them.

If he likes watching sports, join him for a session or two. Take time and ride bicycles in the hills. On a weekend afternoon, watch a movie with him. Whatever you choose to do together, make sure you have fun while doing it. You will be surprised how easy it will be for you to build a connection with your man. If anything, you will be happier and more fulfilled in the relationship.

  1. Spring a Surprise Once In A While

Just like women, men like pleasant surprises. On random days and nights, why don’t you arrange for a time out? Before he asks for it, surprise him with a night of steaming sex.

Even a small gift is enough to make your man confident of being in a stable relationship. When the surprise is thoughtful, it is effective in building an emotional connection with your man.

It is in total contrast with being the one who is always demanding favors from him. Doing that only puts him off and makes it difficult to build an emotional connection.

  1. Affirm Him in What He Does

If you want your man to be comfortable around you, be positive. Men need to be affirmed to be at their very best. You don’t have to keep complimenting him all day long. What you should do is show him how high you hold him.

Extol your man’s positive attributes if you hope to have him running back to you all the time. When you keep quiet about his positive attributes, you will end up making him insecure while around you.

So, if there is anything you like about him, don’t hesitate to tell him. Boost his ego by appreciating the kind of man he is. If this doesn’t draw your man closer, just what will?

  1. Do Not Overanalyze

Granted, women can be extremely emotional. They have a tendency of overanalyzing statements from their men. However, over-analysis and overthinking issues can be detrimental to your efforts to forge a strong bond with your man.

Learn to take what he says at face value. Avoid having negative opinions about his statements. Trying to attach different meanings and making it a big deal is a no-no. The net effect is to discourage him from being more open with you in the future.

He will no longer consider you a confidant. So, build a connection with your man by taking things at face value and avoiding unnecessary over-analysis.

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  1. Build Trust

Before you can build an emotional connection with a man, he needs to really trust you. In the absence of trust, there is no hope in making that connection. So, if you are ever snooping around for evidence of cheating, stop.

Constant suspicions can wreck even the strongest relationship. When you have absolute trust in your man, you are secure in the relationship and love for each other. You know that he loves you and that’s it. Also, learn to be trustworthy. Behave in such a way that he can trust you. If he has doubts, there is no way he is going to open up to you.

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  1. Be Emotionally Available

It is futile to push your man into building an emotional connection when you keep holding back. To set the pace of what you want to happen, become emotionally available. When in a conversation, be fully present.

Get over your insecurities or whatever could be holding you back. Just the same way he is likely to reciprocate your affection, he will hold back if you do. In the end, you will have two emotionally unavailable individuals trying to make a connection. Under no circumstances can that work.

  1. Overcome Problems Together

It is normal for there to be problems in a marriage. The worst mistake you can do is to gloss over the issues without finding lasting solutions. In a situation of persistent problems, there is no hope for an emotional connection. Sit down with him and define the problem together.

Find solutions that ensure an end to the obstacles. Once you get rid of these obstacles, you can go back to your efforts to build an emotional connection with your man. After all, a strong bond is only possible in a situation bereft of any obstacles.


Every woman needs to feel close to the man she loves. Having an emotional connection is one way of knowing you have a lasting relationship. Although it takes time, every effort made towards getting closer to your man is worth it.

When things get tough, keep going. Quitting midway is only an admission of defeat. It takes a lot of patience to have a man emotionally connected with you. Keep going, one day at a time.

There are times when you will have to wait for your man to respond. Other times, he will surprise you by engaging in a rare conversation. embrace all of these and move on.

David Small

is the founder and editor of relationshiptips4u. He is a dating, marriage & relationship coach, speaker, and author. Learn more about him here and connect with him on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
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