How to Make a Man Addicted to You

By David Small •  Updated: 07/17/20 •  14 min read

Want to know how to make a man addicted to you? You can either keep wishing or take concrete steps to have a man craving you alone. But that doesn’t mean that the man should be obsessed with you.

How to Make a Man Addicted to You

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Unless you are a weirdo, there is no way you would want your man to follow you everywhere. What we are suggesting is the right kind of addiction that makes the man keep loving you. That’s to say the man has made you a priority or first in his life.

Some women mistakenly think that giving a man sex daily can make him addicted to them. If anything, sex” means different things to different men.

Yes, he has sexual needs, but he is also an emotional being with feelings. Stay in tune with his emotions and feelings, and you would have any man at your beck and call.

In this write-up, we have suggested several strategies to get you started. With Love Learnings, you can get your man addicted to you without altering too much of yourself. Let’s get going.

Tips to Make Him Addicted To You

  1. Maintain a Sense of Mystery.

When you meet a man for the first time, it doesn’t help to lay everything on the table. Telling her everything about you will only make him have no reason to keep chasing you.

In a Psychology Today article, Scott Barry Kaufman says men get attracted to women who appear mysterious. He wants you to be a riddle to which he can find a solution. Or, like puzzle pieces, which are difficult to put together.

Better still, you need to remain a maze through which he must work. Release a little bit of yourself every time to maintain his interest in you. It is always good when there is a lot he doesn’t know about you.

Keep much of the information about you locked away for future dates. If you tell him everything on your first meeting, what will you talk about the next time you are together? Sharing everything from the day you were born in one sitting, he is going to lose interest in you. If you are divorced or widowed, save that for another day.

The strategy applies to face-to-face communication as well as emails, phone calls, and text messages.

  1. Stay Positive Always.

What is your attitude towards life? Do you always expect the best, or are you still focused on the negative? When in your man’s company, do you ever come off as pessimistic and self-pitying? Negative emotions can dampen the mood of a promising date night.

Instead of concentrating on bettering the relationship, you will be forced to try dimming the negativity in the air. No matter how emotionally mature the man is, he is going to get quickly turned off.

You can change the situation by being more happy and outgoing. We are not saying that you should always be in uncontrollable high spirits. That, too, can spoil your chances of having a healthy relationship.

Instead, learn to exude a definite sense of confidence in everything you do. No matter how gloomy a situation is, look for the good in it and dwell more on it. Positivity is contagious. If anything, men love being around women who are always positive. You only need to know how to keep a man smiling to make him addicted to you.

  1. Don’t Give In Too Easily.

You cannot argue with the facts. Playing hard to get is a proven strategy to keep a man interested in you. By nature, men are hunters. They relish the experience of going after the prey. So don’t give yourself to him too quickly.

Make him work for your love. Playing hard to get can make a man addicted to you. So, how do you do it? Firstly, you should avoid being “too available” to him. When he calls you to meet him, you should not be so easy to leave what you are doing.

Establish standards you cannot break when planning to be together with him. He might call you for a dinner date, but you have a busy schedule. Ask him to reschedule for another day. While it isn’t the same as saying no, it isn’t an outright “yes,” either.

The point is to get him to work hard to get you. Also, avoid being the one asking him out. It is a mistake to keep texting, phoning, or messaging him. To give the man a sense of control, let him be the one chasing you.

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  1. Don’t Be Afraid To Show Your Emotions.

Everyone is vulnerable, including you. If you want a man to be addicted to you, show him your emotional side. Allow yourself to be exposed before him.

Exposing your vulnerability will make him trust you more. While at it, don’t allow your ego to stand in the way. Talk to him about how you feel. Bolting up can only cause an emotional strain that can lead to stress. A man needs to know you rely on him for emotional support.

After all, he is there to give you a shoulder on which you can lean. To him, it is a great honor that you could decide to show him your vulnerable side. Even as you open up to him, don’t forget to tell him how much you love him.

Learn to appreciate him for the kind of support he gives to you. That way, you will assure him that his efforts really matter.

  1. Take a Break from the Relationship.

You have just met a guy, and you love him entirely. For some reason, you want to be always together with him. Even if that was possible, it is not healthy at all. If you spend every waking hour in his company, you will kill the romance even before it blossoms.

There is nothing good in becoming too familiar with each other. Also, being too comfortable in his presence will make the relationship boring quicker than you can think.

Our advice is that you give the guy some space if you want him to be addicted to you. Take a break from the relationship. It doesn’t mean total withdrawal. Instead, reduce the number of times you text him in a day.

Stop calling him for a meeting when he is off duty. Get a life! Arrange to go hiking with your girlfriends. Pursue your hobbies and other interests. Give him space to keep pursuing you. Allow him to miss you. Let him be the first one to send a message or to call you. When you eventually meet, you will have a lot to talk about.

  1. Laughter Will Keep Him Thinking About You.

In the real world, your man has so much to deal with. He is always worried about his family, friends, work, and school. Why don’t you be the one to make it possible for him to provide him with some fun?

He has spent the day at the office dealing with slow suppliers and complaining customers. When he comes to you in the evening, make sure you can put him into a positive mood.

Make your time together worthwhile by joking and laughing at the slightest excuse. If you keep the flame of laughter going, the man will easily get addicted to you.

Perhaps you can set the mood by watching a popular comedy. Or, attend a stand-up comedy show. It gets even better if you can take turns to tell funny stories.

Find a way to sustain the laughter every time you meet. The man will not only become addicted to you, but he will also try everything to make you happy. Also, you will be able to stay together.

  1. Share a Secret.

If you want to know how to make a man addicted to you, then you should be ready to open up. Relationships become better when two people know they can keep each other’s deepest secrets. It creates a strong bond and strengthens your relationships.

So, share with him a secret. If it is a profound secret, hold on until you are sure you can trust him. In the beginning, share general information until you are comfortable enough to share embarrassing moments from the past.

The more the secrets you share, the stronger the trust between the two of you is going to be. You will also be able to establish a solid foundation for your relationship.

As you keep exposing yourself to him, the man will become more addicted to you.

Make a Man Addicted

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  1. Encourage the Man to Open Up.

It is not enough to open up to a man. Realize that trust is two-way traffic. As you open up to him, the man should also open up. However, he may not do that unless you encourage him. You don’t have to pressure him to reveal his darkest and deepest secrets.

Instead, start slowly by allowing him to share information as and when he wants to. Create an environment where you can sit down with him to talk. Allow him to relax.

Once that’s done, he is definitely going to tell you more about his past. He will have no problem sharing his secrets because he has absolute trust in you. Opening up is a sign that his attachment to you is growing by the day.

As he reveals his history, resist the urge to judge him. Don’t be surprised if the man becomes infinitely addicted to you.

  1. Let Him Be As He Is.

Even though it is not advised, people in relationships try to change each other all the time. Big mistake! What would you do if a man tries to change how you dress?

You are likely to resist his efforts no matter how noble his intentions might be. The same is true if a man tried to dissuade you from seeing your friends. Or, to stop your career and become a housewife.

So, why should you try to change him? If you do not like some aspects of his behavior, tell him. Perhaps it’s the way he leaves you to do all the household chores alone. You are expected to ask for help.

However, trying to alter his personality, how he dresses, or his eating style is a no-no. You have to options – either accept him for who he is or leave him. If you choose to accept him, the man is going to get more addicted to you and not even realize why.

  1. Be a Great Listener.

Do you want to know how to make a man addicted to you? Well, listen to him. Not many women can do that. They would rather talk while the guy listens than the other way.

So, work at becoming a good listener. He needs to know that he can tell you all of his issues without worrying about you judging him. The man should trust you enough to reach out to you when he has an issue pressing him down. We are not talking about hearing what he says.

Learn what it takes to be an active listener. When he wants your opinion on an issue, know how to respond. Don’t just sit there. Ask him some follow up questions, so he knows for care about the issues in his life.

The better your listening skills become, the more the man will be addicted to you.

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  1. Keep It Interesting.

Now that you are into a relationship avoid letting things become boring and sour. If you do, you might become part of the statistics that end prematurely due to reduced excitement. Probably, the man isn’t trying much.

However, that doesn’t mean that you neglect to play your part in strengthening the relationship. If it depends on you to make it work, do something about it. We are not suggesting that you take him to join a road race to spice up things.

No matter how small it is, make sure you surprise him from time to time. It could be showing up at his house with packed dinner on a random night. Or asking him out to the beach on the weekend. Don’t allow him to second guess you.

Allow him to be addicted to you by maintaining a sense of mystery.

This will Gets Him Addicted To You Forever

  1. Work on Being Well Rounded.

One of the best ways to get a guy addicted to you is to become a well-rounded person. After all, life is not all about going out on dates.

Work on things such as staying updated with the news, learning a new hobby, reading books, and so on. That way, you will be able to share things that bring you intellectually closer to your man. If you have something to bring to the table, the guy is likely going to be addicted to you.

Guys find intellectually developed women easy to relate to. He will know that you aren’t just defined about your beauty but that you have ideas too. Also, you will have a lot to talk about while together.

Never again will you have dull or boring conversations. Whenever he wants to talk to someone about what’s going on in the world, you will be the first port of call.

  1. Be His Number One Fan.

While going about his life’s issues, your man needs to know you are his biggest fan. Offer your support to him in everything he does. The man will appreciate it and become confident enough to face any life’s situation.

To him, nothing will be difficult, so long as he knows you are behind him. But how do you become his number one fan? Well, show him respect and appreciation for everything (big or small) he does.

If he takes the trash out of the kitchen, compliment him. When he brings you a bouquet of flowers, give him a passionate kiss. Every small step he makes should be an excuse for you to praise him. Once he becomes used to you cheering him, the man is going to be addicted to you.

  1. Take an Interest in His Hobbies.

Most likely, the hobbies you pursue are totally different from his. That doesn’t have to continue. Your man is likely to be addicted to you if you have common hobbies.

You don’t have to get involved in everything he does. Instead, you should ensure you maintain a unique sense of identity and even pursue some hobbies on your own.

However, try to sit next to him during a football game. Even if you do not stay the entire length of the game, the man will know you are interested in what he does.


All we have been trying to do is to show you how to make a man addicted to you. It is not magic. All you need to do is a little more work to irreversibly attract a man to you.

Men like it when they have an opportunity to explore a woman bit by bit. That’s why we have suggested you maintain a sense of mystery. However, as you get to know each other more, start sharing some of your deepest secrets.

David Small

is the founder and editor of relationshiptips4u. He is a dating, marriage & relationship coach, speaker, and author. Learn more about him here and connect with him on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
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