18 Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Are Difficult

By David Small •  Updated: 12/29/15 •  8 min read

long distance relationships are tricky and many people have been in long distance relationships that have failed. Reading about long distance relationships and their problems is a great way to help you fail proof your relationship.

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If you want to prevent your long distance relationship break-up then try to avoid the 18 reasons why long distance relationships are so difficult to maintain and how to overcome the challenges by following the following advice.

1. You can slowly become strangers

Over time couples can fall into a routine of asking mundane everyday questions when they talk. Questions like; “How was your day?” and “How is the weather?” become commonplace rather than asking questions of depth. This can lead to you becoming strangers as you live separate lives and don’t stay up to date with what’s really going on in each other’s day to day happenings.

2. Falling out of love happens quicker if you are apart

Falling out of love is something that can happen in any relationship and it usually happens when you grow apart. Growing apart from each other happens easier in a long distance relationship.

3. You can both be inconsiderate towards each other

Not being considerate of each other is a big problem in any relationship. To help maintain your long distance relationship it’s important to always be aware of each other’s time zones, work, and what’s going on in your partner’s life.

4. Friends and family can get in the way

In a long distance relationship, your family and friends may tell you to call it quits and interfere with your relationship. This is often not to be difficult but usually because they care and don’t want to see you get hurt. However, this can have a negative effect on your relationship and if you’re serious about maintaining your

However, this can have a negative effect on your relationship and if you’re serious about maintaining your long distance relationship you will have to make it clear to your family and friends that they cannot interrupt in your relationship and that the relationship is for the long haul.

5. Long distance communication can be really hard

In any relationship, communication can be an issue. Communication is the key to maintaining any long distance relationship, but it is also hard to maintain. You need to focus on always keeping your lines of communication wide open.

6. Going to bed angry and not resolving fights is so much easier to do in a long distance relationship

Not resolving fights as they arise and keeping the issues bottled up only make the issues get bigger. This is never a good idea and all too easy to do in a long distance relationship! To help maintain your long distance relationship, it’s important to always resolve fights while they are active.

7. It is easy to forget that your partner has a life outside of the relationship

Forgetting that your partner has a life outside of your relationship happens when you both spend most of your time only speaking to each other. This is dangerous when it comes to maintaining a long distance relationship. Both partners in a

Both partners in a long distance relationship need to keep living their own lives, growing relationships with their friends and family and building a career. It is important for you to always keep this in mind and allow your partner to live a happy and fulfilled life outside of your relationship.

8. It is easy to forget that you have a life outside of the relationship

If you forget your own life outside of the relationship and focus purely on your partner you can cause trouble in your other relationships. In order to help maintain your relationship with each other, you need to allow yourself the freedom to have a life outside of your long distance relationship.


9. You may not see each other enough

Long distance relationships can be difficult to maintain if you live in different countries and sometimes even different continents. This is because you may not see each other enough. Sometimes it can be difficult to see each other more than once a year.

Trying to Skype with each other at every opportunity you get will help make maintaining a relationship less difficult.

10. You keep missing dates and appointments

Keeping your “dates” and “appointments” with each other is very important. If you regularly miss dates and appointments or forget about them your partner may start to feel unimportant and neglected, which is not something anyone ever wants to feel.

Keeping your dates and appointments shows your partner that you are committed to them, they are important to you, that you consider their feelings and that you respect their time.

11. You both fall into routines that take the excitement out of the relationship

Mixing things up and keeping things fresh and fun is always a great way to help maintain a relationship as it prevents you from getting bored with your situation or your partner. It also helps to prevent you from falling into a routine, which can lead to you falling out of love.

12. Forgetting pleasantries become easier to do the longer you are apart

Forgetting simple pleasantries can make maintaining a long distance relationship very difficult to do. You need to remember the pleasantries. Say “Hello” when you wake up and “Goodbye” when you go to bed. Remember to say “thank you” and tell each other how much you care. This sounds like a simple task for anyone to do, but pleasantries can be forgotten in any relationship, especially once you fall into a routine.

13. Being Too Clingy, We all have been guilty of this mistake.

There are two kinds of people, the clingers, and the detachers. If there is one of each kind in a relationship, it requires a good amount of hard work to reach a balance where both of you are happy with the relationship. You need to identify the traits of your partner in order to label them as a detached or clinger.

The worst mistake you can make is being too clingy with a detached. They are going to run so fast, you would not know what just happened. Make sure you have a life of your own and take out the time to connect with them as well. Follow their pattern and reciprocate.

 14. Being Too Detached

So, you are the detached in the relationship. Your partner is probably whining all the time how you never have enough time for them? Do not give them what they want. There is a certain power over making the other person chase you. That is what keeps the attraction going. However, you should give them just enough to keep them satisfied.

girl in Long Distance Relationship

15. Letting Jealousies Take Over

So, you have been cheated on before and now you have serious trust issues. This doesn’t mean you color every partner as a cheater. Not all men are cheaters and there are probably a thousand other problems in a relationship without letting your jealousies create a thousand new ones. Talk to your partner about your feelings and let them know what ignites them in the first place.

16. Not Creating Enough Attraction for Your Partner

We get it, you are busy and they are busy and yet you want this relationship to work. However, it is not as easy as that. You need to create ways to keep the spark alive in the relationship to make sure it feels new and exciting even after years.

Killing excitement and uncertainty from your relationship is a surefire way to kill any attraction they feel for you. Gerald Greekson in his book, ‘Long Distance Relationship Miracle: How to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work Give us a step-by-step plan on how to keep the attraction alive in a long distance relationship.

17. Giving Them Everything They Ask For

If you have a million-dollar estate, would a hundred dollars hold any value for you? In fact, owing to human nature, as long as it is not taken away from you, your estate will stop making you happy for long. We take things for granted unless we are uncertain about owning them. So, if you give your partners everything they ask for, you are kind of forcing them to take you for granted.

18. Not Trusting Them

The thousands of miles that separate you can be unbearable on both of you. However, they can become harder if you do not trust them. This attitude will change your perspective of them and create a lot of unwanted issues. If you are in a relationship, why let trust issues cause problems. Take a leap of faith. “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”  Maya Angelou

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David Small

is the founder and editor of relationshiptips4u. He is a dating, marriage & relationship coach, speaker, and author. Learn more about him here and connect with him on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.

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